Online Therapy for Anxiety in California and Texas
You are tired of questioning yourself and thinking through every possible outcome.
You may overthink conversations, second guess your decisions, or look for reassurance before you can feel settled. Even when things are going well, your mind can still find something to worry about.
You make a decision and almost immediately start wondering whether you made the wrong one. You replay a conversation and think about what you should have said differently. Someone’s tone changes and your mind starts trying to figure out what it means. You may ask people you trust what they think, not because you have no opinion of your own, but because anxiety makes it difficult to settle into your answer.
It can show up in relationships too. You may notice yourself trying to read between the lines, worrying that someone is pulling away, or questioning whether you can trust what is happening in front of you. Sometimes you know logically that you are safe, but your body and your thoughts do not seem to believe it yet.
And then there is the way you speak to yourself when you think you got something wrong. A mistake can quickly turn into I should have known better, I should have handled that differently, or why am I like this? You may hold yourself to a standard you would never expect from someone you love.
Over time, anxiety can leave you feeling disconnected from yourself because so much energy goes into anticipating, analyzing, and trying to prevent the wrong thing from happening.
Anxiety can make it hard to trust what you already know.
You do not have to understand exactly why this happens before coming to therapy. We can start with what you are noticing now.
We are not only trying to make the anxiety go away. We want to understand what keeps bringing it back.
Therapy with me includes tools for managing anxiety, but our work does not stop there. I want us to understand what happens before the overthinking, reassurance seeking, self criticism, or fear begins. We can look at what you are afraid might happen, what you have learned to expect from other people, and what makes trusting yourself feel difficult.
Sometimes anxiety developed in environments where being alert made sense. You may have learned to pay close attention to someone else’s mood, avoid making mistakes, keep the peace, or think several steps ahead. Those responses may have helped you at one point, even if they now leave you exhausted.
Together, we can begin recognizing those patterns earlier and practicing different responses. That may include slowing down before asking for reassurance, learning to tolerate uncertainty, noticing what happens in your body when anxiety rises, questioning beliefs that keep you stuck, and making decisions based on what matters to you rather than what anxiety is telling you to avoid.
Family and culture are part of the conversation too.
For women of color and Haitian women, anxiety does not exist outside of family, culture, relationships, and the messages you received growing up. Maybe you learned that saying no was disrespectful, that putting yourself first was selfish, or that being a good daughter meant being available even when you were overwhelmed.
We can look at those messages without asking you to reject your family or your culture. The goal is to understand how they shaped you, decide what still matters to you, and create room for your own voice.
As a Haitian therapist, I can also help place some of those experiences into cultural context. Therapy is available in English and Haitian Creole for clients in California and Texas.
The approaches I may use
Trauma informed CBT
DBT skills for emotion regulation and distress tolerance
Mindfulness and grounding
Psychoeducation about anxiety, trauma responses, and the nervous system
Values exploration
Inner child and parts informed reflection
The tools we use will depend on what you are experiencing and what makes sense for you.
What getting started looks like
1. Start with a 15 minute consultation
We will briefly talk about what is bringing you to therapy, what you are looking for, and whether my practice may be a good fit. This is not a therapy session. It is simply a chance for us to connect and decide whether we want to move forward.
2. We begin with what is happening now
Your first sessions give me an opportunity to understand what you have been experiencing and what you want help with. You do not have to arrive with your entire story figured out.
3. We begin connecting the patterns
As we continue meeting weekly, we can start noticing what triggers the anxiety, what may be underneath it, and how your experiences, relationships, beliefs, and nervous system responses connect. We then practice different ways of responding so you can begin trusting yourself more.
Questions about therapy for Anxiety
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Overthinking can become so familiar that it starts to feel like part of your personality. In therapy, we can become curious about when it happens, what you are trying to protect yourself from, and what makes it difficult to let a thought go. The goal is not to stop thinking. It is to help you recognize when anxiety has taken over and learn how to respond differently.
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Sometimes reassurance helps for a moment, but the doubt comes back. We can look at what makes trusting your own judgment difficult and begin building your ability to make decisions without needing anxiety to be completely gone first.
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It can be. Your experiences growing up may influence what feels safe, how you respond to conflict, what you expect from relationships, and how much pressure you place on yourself. That does not mean every experience has to be labeled as trauma. We can explore the connections together without forcing a label that does not fit for you.
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Knowing something intellectually does not always mean your nervous system responds the same way. Therapy can include learning to notice those physical responses, understand what activates them, and practice ways of helping your body return to the present.
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There is no set amount of time that works for everyone. It depends on what is contributing to the anxiety, how long the patterns have been present, and what you want to work through. We will continue talking about your progress as therapy develops.